tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-74049807525957398622024-03-06T00:11:09.059-08:00sarahspostcardsnapsPostcards of my life and thoughts.Sarah Condiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03911246756462438342noreply@blogger.comBlogger121125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7404980752595739862.post-8294527323537156752011-03-08T17:54:00.000-08:002011-03-08T17:54:17.006-08:00A new blogI have not written anything for months. I can't give a good reason at all. The stuff of life has consumed my thoughts and writing has not been a high priority. However, I am keen to return to writing, but have decided to create a new blog and write on it. Don't ask me why, but I thought I would enjoy the challenge of trying to make my blog look better. I am struggling to do this on my blog, but I have begun to write. If you have enjoyed reading this blog, you will find my new blog at: <a href="http://sarahcondie.com/">http://sarahcondie.com</a>.Sarah Condiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03911246756462438342noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7404980752595739862.post-73357478449378253532010-11-01T22:37:00.000-07:002010-11-01T22:37:46.114-07:00A calm and quieted soul<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhqnJL0ErIyb48caHk54hWuBCIEecBspexBobZ6rvVrONyJyXzFFXuaxE0pZ6FL-JoTaLhzs0-O2vbWoqHOHHJL-6O114vbaJN-mfEbKOkPruZatpu0NAJPu61oKJgxYf_TKtO6eG3uLbw/s1600/Breakfast-in-Bed.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="332" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhqnJL0ErIyb48caHk54hWuBCIEecBspexBobZ6rvVrONyJyXzFFXuaxE0pZ6FL-JoTaLhzs0-O2vbWoqHOHHJL-6O114vbaJN-mfEbKOkPruZatpu0NAJPu61oKJgxYf_TKtO6eG3uLbw/s400/Breakfast-in-Bed.jpg" width="400" /></a></div><!--StartFragment--> <br />
<div class="MsoNormal">Last week I listened to my husband speaking to a group of women.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He used an apt illustration that has stayed with me.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He talked about life being a bit like living in a banana tree filled with monkeys trying to eat the bananas. We face countless distractions and demands from those different monkeys and at times it can be chaotic and unsettling.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Whether it is babies, small children, work, busyness, a long “to do list” that never gets completed, exams, study, noise…. I am in that banana tree and it is pretty turbulent and exhausting.</div><div class="MsoNormal">Is it possible with all the clamour, noise and chaos to have a calm and quieted soul?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Psalm 131, a Psalm written by David describes how to zone out to the monkeys in our tree and sit quietly on a branch and draw breath.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 36.0pt; margin-right: 0cm; margin-top: 0cm; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><sup><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-font-family: Verdana; mso-bidi-font-size: 13.0pt;">1</span></sup><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-font-family: Verdana; mso-bidi-font-size: 16.0pt;"> LORD, my heart is not proud;<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 36.0pt; margin-right: 0cm; margin-top: 0cm; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-font-family: Verdana; mso-bidi-font-size: 16.0pt;"> my eyes are not haughty. <o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 36.0pt; margin-right: 0cm; margin-top: 0cm; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-font-family: Verdana; mso-bidi-font-size: 16.0pt;"> I do not get involved with things<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 36.0pt; margin-right: 0cm; margin-top: 0cm; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-font-family: Verdana; mso-bidi-font-size: 16.0pt;"> too great or too difficult for me.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 36.0pt; margin-right: 0cm; margin-top: 0cm; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-font-family: Verdana; mso-bidi-font-size: 16.0pt;"> </span><sup><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-font-family: Verdana; mso-bidi-font-size: 13.0pt;">2</span></sup><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-font-family: Verdana; mso-bidi-font-size: 16.0pt;"> Instead, I have calmed and quieted myself <o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 36.0pt; margin-right: 0cm; margin-top: 0cm; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-font-family: Verdana; mso-bidi-font-size: 16.0pt;"><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>like a little weaned child with its mother; <o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 36.0pt; margin-right: 0cm; margin-top: 0cm; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-font-family: Verdana; mso-bidi-font-size: 16.0pt;"><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I am like a little child.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 36.0pt; margin-right: 0cm; margin-top: 0cm; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-font-family: Verdana; mso-bidi-font-size: 16.0pt;"> </span><sup><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-font-family: Verdana; mso-bidi-font-size: 13.0pt;">3</span></sup><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-font-family: Verdana; mso-bidi-font-size: 16.0pt;"> Israel, put your hope in the LORD, <o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 36.0pt; margin-right: 0cm; margin-top: 0cm; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-font-family: Verdana; mso-bidi-font-size: 16.0pt;"><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>both now and forever.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0cm; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0cm; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-font-family: Verdana; mso-bidi-font-size: 16.0pt;">In this Psalm, David is not noisy inside.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>We have a picture of a quiet, calm man.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>This is not the experience of David during his whole life – we all know he had failings – adultery and murder come to mind, but this is a picture of the inner soul of David at a particular time in his life.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0cm; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-font-family: Verdana; mso-bidi-font-size: 16.0pt;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0cm; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-font-family: Verdana; mso-bidi-font-size: 16.0pt;"><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"></span>This Psalm also points us to Jesus. </span>This stillness was true of Jesus’ life – this Psalm gives us a picture of God who became man thinking out loud for us.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He speaks of the stillness of the soul of those who walk closely with God.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0cm; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0cm; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-font-family: Verdana; mso-bidi-font-size: 16.0pt;">David had much to be proud of – he was King, handsome, intelligent, and musical and was clearly adored by his family and those who knew him.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Despite these very qualities, he put them aside to have a heart <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">not</b> proud.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Nor did David look down on those around him.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Sometimes we have such a longing to feel recognized and appreciated that this can often be the only way of achieving this – by looking down on others.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>David has learnt not to have a proud heart or haughty eyes.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0cm; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0cm; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-font-family: Verdana; mso-bidi-font-size: 16.0pt;">Does it matter what our house looks like?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Whether one of our children has a very public tantrum or we perform perfectly in our studies and workplace?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Sometimes these very things are the monkey’s vying for our attention and we become so preoccupied in making ourselves look good that we stress ourselves out completely and feel rattled and unsettled – our self expectations, usually high are the undoing of us.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0cm; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0cm; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-font-family: Verdana; mso-bidi-font-size: 16.0pt;">David has also freed himself from trying to make sense of his world.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>There is much that happens in my life, and in the lives of those around me that makes little or no sense.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Sometimes I try and make things better for myself or others, and again, I get overwhelmed, as it is never enough. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>There is a challenge to be like David, and simply say “I do not get involved with things too great or too difficult for me”, because it does not help me.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>David knows he is not God.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I Sarah Condie, am not God – nor are you.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It is only God who sees life in all its fullness.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0cm; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0cm; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-font-family: Verdana; mso-bidi-font-size: 16.0pt;">David has a soul that is at peace.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He is quiet inside.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It didn’t come spontaneously.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He learned how to do it.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>There is a beautiful picture painted for us of a weaned child sitting on its mother’s lap – this is a picture of a soul at rest. </span>A weaned child is no longer breastfed.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If a hungry breastfed baby is put in its mother’s lap, it is wriggly and irritable until it is fed.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>This same child, once weaned will sit on its mother’s lap, quietly and at peace.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0cm; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0cm; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-font-family: Verdana; mso-bidi-font-size: 16.0pt;">David challenges his readers to put their hope and trust in the Lord.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>This is what will free them from their inner restlessness.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Sit quietly in your banana tree, even for five minutes and focus on the Lord and you will find rest for your souls.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0cm; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0cm; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-font-family: Verdana; mso-bidi-font-size: 16.0pt;">Prayer:</span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-font-family: Verdana; mso-bidi-font-size: 16.0pt;"><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Lord, please give me a calm and quiet soul.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I am positively giddy with trying to stay on my banana tree – there is much to distract, dismay, disappoint and hurt me.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I ask that I can be like that weaned child and sit still.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Please remove the distracting restlessness from me.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Help me to feed on your word and be encouraged to remember to put my hope in you – both today and tomorrow.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Amen.<o:p></o:p></span></div><!--EndFragment-->Sarah Condiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03911246756462438342noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7404980752595739862.post-69426718187758536652010-09-28T21:39:00.000-07:002010-09-28T21:39:23.713-07:00A little light reading and a little more...<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Lucida Grande'; font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 11px;"><div class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">I love reading and usually have a pile of books waiting to be read sitting beside my bed. I have a somewhat eclectic taste. I do enjoy a soothing book – a book that is easy to read when nothing terribly bad happens. Why? Sometimes I feel the weight of sadness in other people’s lives. This last week has been particularly hard – and I am only a bystander. </span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">I have spent time with a woman who lost her eleven year old daughter last December, a woman who has just lost her much longed for baby who died in the womb at 19 weeks, a couple who were struggling to emotionally connect in their marriage and I listened to hurts expressed, a woman whose husband had just lost his job </span><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">and </span></i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">this is not all. Sometimes life is hard and sad and sometimes I feel a little overwhelmed and swamped.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Reading light books sometimes helps me and gives me some space to collect my thoughts. I have just finished reading a series of three such books. I suspect I am not the only woman who craves to read a book that is pleasant company. I have a number of women who ask me for suggestions of books to read and they often say “I just want a nice book to read”. I am often lending my books to friends and lose track of them for months at a time and hope they will return.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj4q8gBP_NVIyEx9q8rufG0vm3O5gRwD6jYUNQBRfR-wwLKDGRJqTrBlTCyKQMI8loJ8qSu-p2xBrFsllGheevQHJoBqoojgBkymZG6Lmy6WfsQ24knsVNFq27iH_y6UApGYpUFXxnDsc0/s1600/IMG_3162.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="300" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj4q8gBP_NVIyEx9q8rufG0vm3O5gRwD6jYUNQBRfR-wwLKDGRJqTrBlTCyKQMI8loJ8qSu-p2xBrFsllGheevQHJoBqoojgBkymZG6Lmy6WfsQ24knsVNFq27iH_y6UApGYpUFXxnDsc0/s400/IMG_3162.JPG" width="400" /></a></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">The </span><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Elm Creek Quilt</span></i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"> series by Jennifer Chiaverini is not demanding and utterly enjoyable. Each volume contains three stories. Recently, I was given the second series as a gift from my work colleagues – they loved the look of the cover and know that I am a mad quilter. These stories are based around a group of women who live in rural America who are friends and share a passion for creating quilts. </span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Mostly, the stories revolve around one particular woman and events that are happening in her life – the stuff of life is present – relationship issues, infertility, wild children and other issues, however, they are stories in which the women survive these events because of their friendship and they are prepared to face up to weaknesses in their own self that they can change. There is much detail about quilts, so if you have zero interest in quilting, you would probably hate this series. </span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">I found one of the stories </span><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">The Runaway Quilt </span></i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">particularly interesting, as it explores the family history of one the characters – Sylvia, in which she discovers that her ancestors were involved with smuggling slaves from the South up to the Canadian border to safety. A particular quilt would be hung on the washing line, indicating that the house was a safe house for slaves to take refuge. These events took place just before the American Civil War – it is a time in history that I find quite fascinating.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">This week I took refuge in these stories. To be honest, this is not my only solution to escaping life when it becomes overwhelming. I have recently returned to the gym and regular walking exercise and this helped enormously. </span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">I do also seek refuge in God’s word – particularly the Psalms. This last week I have been reading Psalm 77. The voice of the Psalmist expresses his distress – he feels rejected and abandoned.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 36.0pt; margin-right: 0cm; margin-top: 0cm;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">“Will the Lord reject forever?</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 36.0pt; margin-right: 0cm; margin-top: 0cm;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Will he never show his favour again?</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 36.0pt; margin-right: 0cm; margin-top: 0cm;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Has his unfailing love vanished forever?</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 36.0pt; margin-right: 0cm; margin-top: 0cm;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Has his promise failed for all time?</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 36.0pt; margin-right: 0cm; margin-top: 0cm;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Has God forgotten to be merciful?</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 36.0pt; margin-right: 0cm; margin-top: 0cm;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Has he in anger withheld his compassion”? vv 7-9</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 36.0pt; margin-right: 0cm; margin-top: 0cm;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0cm;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">These are deep questions that we all have from time to time. Last week, I felt this, not so much for myself but for my friends. There was nothing I could do to fix any of the situations other than sit and listen. However, the Psalmist turns and remembers what he knows to be true about God and reminds himself of how God rescued His people – with His mighty arm, he redeemed the descendants of Jacob and Joseph. He remembers how the Red Sea parted so His people could walk safely through the waters.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0cm;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 36.0pt; margin-right: 0cm; margin-top: 0cm;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">“Your path led through the sea, your way through the mighty waters, though your footprints were not seen. </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 36.0pt; margin-right: 0cm; margin-top: 0cm;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">You led your people like a flock by the hand of Moses and Aaron.” v19-20</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 36.0pt; margin-right: 0cm; margin-top: 0cm;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0cm;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">God’s footprints are there – we just can’t see them. I find that immensely reassuring. This blog post is not just about a little light reading at all. It is about things that help me walk with friends during times of crises.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0cm;"><br />
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I know that we could continue meeting without a church building, but there is so much that we could do with a place of their own.<br />
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If you would like to sponsor someone you know at Barneys, can I encourage you to do this - every cent counts. You can <a href="http://www.barneys.org.au/page/191/Seven+Churches+Walk">sponsor</a> someone online and even leave a message of support.<br />
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Peter Fitzsimons mentioned our fundraising last Sunday in his article "Bitter whine a case of sour grapes, 12 September 2010, SMH - there was this excerpt:<br />
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<blockquote>'MEMBER when that famous old church on Broadway – St Barnabas, burnt down four years ago? The one that used to always have the amusing exchanges on its noticeboard with the pub over the road?</blockquote><blockquote>"Jesus bowled over death" was met with "And Lillee bowled overarm."</blockquote><blockquote>"This church is only for sinners" received the reply, "This pub is only for drinkers."</blockquote><blockquote>"Money does not make you happy," was met with "I'd rather be rich and happy than poor and happy." And so on.</blockquote><blockquote>Well, they're finally starting to rebuild it. The church has been a part of the fabric of Sydney for more than 150 years. It was built by a rogue English evangelist in what he described as "the worst place in the colony" and it was later the church of Arthur Stace, otherwise known as "Mr Eternity". Anyhoo, on Saturday, as part of its fund-raising, the church is holding its inaugural Seven Churches Walk to raise money for the rebuilding. See www.barneys.org.au</blockquote>Sarah Condiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03911246756462438342noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7404980752595739862.post-34178700237770732152010-09-05T18:01:00.000-07:002010-09-05T18:03:08.800-07:00Add to the Beauty<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgHLB4Ld6ySDyzP3aUu2jEkJJP1Rt6WfiCNeTvSiG3TDM-Q7SZWqpauS3DvKPtDheewSPwPdWg7cgiIYv6fD0_jKqakzVOG01Ti7sxxm8xjJQ856AAof5XSAKhbgZasT24zQ9adL5PICjM/s1600/IMG_3079.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="240" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgHLB4Ld6ySDyzP3aUu2jEkJJP1Rt6WfiCNeTvSiG3TDM-Q7SZWqpauS3DvKPtDheewSPwPdWg7cgiIYv6fD0_jKqakzVOG01Ti7sxxm8xjJQ856AAof5XSAKhbgZasT24zQ9adL5PICjM/s320/IMG_3079.JPG" width="320" /></a></div>In early 2006 Keith bought me a Cd by my favourite Christian singer Sara Groves called "<a href="http://www.saragroves.com/store/addtothebeauty/">Add to the Beauty</a>". At the time I was not well and was unable to work or function and I spent a huge amount of time listening to it and the words touched me profoundly. Sara Groves wrote this <a href="http://www.saragroves.com/ijm/">album</a> in response to the injustices that she saw happening in the world and to raise awareness and promote the work of the <a href="http://www.ijm.org/">International Justice </a><a href="http://www.ijm.org/">Mission</a> which <span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; line-height: 17px;">is a human rights agency that secures justice for victims of slavery, sexual exploitation and other forms of violent oppression. IJM lawyers, investigators and aftercare professionals work with local officials to ensure immediate victim rescue and aftercare, to prosecute perpetrators and to promote functioning public justice systems. They are a Christian organisation and their work has been in my heart and prayers since first hearing about them.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; line-height: 17px;">In the life before my illness, I did some part time work for my church working with young women in the evening congregation. I used to meet up regularly with Amber, a young lawyer who was working for a large law firm and wondering what she should do with her life. We had many conversations about God, life and praying that God would equip her to do His work in the world. About a year later, Amber then left her job and went with her husband to India where she worked with the International Justice Mission. During her time there, she was involved in helping a number of villagers who had become slaves to a brick kiln owner and forced to work long, hard hours, locked up, beaten and the women were gang raped repeatedly - all to pay back a debt that grew ever larger. The IJM managed to free these women and bring the owner of the kiln to justice - the government repatriated those who had been enslaved. There was a law making slavery a crime, but no one had ever enforced it and men like this particular owner had always gotten away with breaking the law.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 17px;">The work of IJM inspires me - but I also feel overwhelmed by the immensity of the injustices that people face world wide - I want to close my eyes and ears and pretend that it is not happening. But it is. I am not a lawyer, I am not a doctor and I feel ill equipped to do much that can help. However, I have always prayed and I have prayed. The words of one of Sara Groves had a huge impact on me and formed part of a prayer that I have prayed for over four years:</span></span><br />
<blockquote>We come to every new morning with possibilities only we can hold.... I want to add to the beauty to tell a better story... shine with the light that is burning up inside. It comes in small inspirations, it brings redemption to our life and our words. It comes in loving community, <i>it comes in helping a soul find its worth</i>. This is grace - an invitation to be beautiful.</blockquote>Over these years, as I have struggled with my health, it has not been possible for me to do much at times other than survive. Last year was particularly bad, but I still wanted to do something a little more. I started supporting IJM financially. I met up with Amber, who had returned from India to ask her what I could do to support the work of the IJM. I told her that I could sew - I wondered whether I could make things to sell and give the money to IJM and raise awareness of their work. Fabric and cottons and wadding are not cheap, so I prayed that God would provide me with these things. <br />
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Sadly, one of my dear friend's Mother died about a year ago, leaving behind a room filled with unused fabric, cottons and other stuff. Out of the blue, my friend called and asked me if I could use her mothers things? Could I? Wow - what an amazing answer to my prayer. I filled my car with her things and then had to find a place in my cupboards at home. I love making things, but every time I make something, I give it away - so I was not keeping up with my desire to give gifts and my dream of making things to sell. Also, I am a perfectionist and want to make things that are beautiful and this takes time.<br />
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Last Saturday our church held a women's conference titled "Let your light so shine..." There were a number of stalls for women to look at to raise their awareness of different ministries that women are involved in. I was asked to run the stall for the International Justice Mission. I had hoped to make some quilts for babies, some bags and brooches.... alas, these hopes were dashed as my life has been filled with other stuff - including making quilts to give away. O Sarah - I despair.<br />
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About ten days ago, I suddenly thought about another way of making money. I love taking photos. Ever since I have been unwell, I have had a camera that I have used to take pictures of the tiny things in life that are beautiful. It has given me enormous pleasure and I have made numerous cards which I have used myself to write, or give away in packs as gifts. I thought that I could make some cards and sell these. I also love to encourage snail mail. There is something special about getting a handwritten card in the post - that someone has taken the time to sit and write and then to put it in a letter box with a postage stamp.<br />
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I have just had a significant birthday and one of my favourite aunts gave me some money. I knew that she wanted me to buy something special - just for me. So I did - I bought a teapot which is simply beautiful. However, I had much change left over which enabled me to buy the makings for 150 cards. I then filled every spare moment in a very busy patch making cards. Last Saturday, I had these cards at the stall promoting the IJM. I have ten cards remaining and made $350! <br />
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One of the other stalls was promoting Kairos - a ministry to those in prison. The woman hosting this stall runs a retreat for women from Emu Plains every year. Shirley writes a card for each participant and asked me if she could buy 20 cards. I wanted to <i>give</i> them to her as I think her ministry is so invaluable. However, she is very happy to support my ministry, so she will pay me for these cards - this was my first bulk order!<br />
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Several women have indicated that they would like to help me make more cards to sell. Several others, on hearing my story, which I shared about sewing things expressed a desire to get involved. One of my favourite songs is written by Paul Kelly "from little things, big things grow". My idea is so little that it is doable. Even little old me could do it and I did. This morning I have a song in my heart, Psalm 145 sums up what I want to express to God. <br />
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<blockquote></blockquote>Sarah Condiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03911246756462438342noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7404980752595739862.post-74435231566853633422010-06-25T16:53:00.000-07:002010-06-25T16:53:48.059-07:00A quilt for May<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjIgx2Z0XqSpgyjdfi5fAhDuxskEKSow0U_zDDIFca5guD5H93B39ShZboJ-W_VKAyHFg96iuhbsBfWpLqMNCsfAteuKqbeaJkVyTtgb2mKvOB6MrZoYQmrIfwLOH_jxqL7d7jRtj5Msjo/s1600/IMG_2956.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjIgx2Z0XqSpgyjdfi5fAhDuxskEKSow0U_zDDIFca5guD5H93B39ShZboJ-W_VKAyHFg96iuhbsBfWpLqMNCsfAteuKqbeaJkVyTtgb2mKvOB6MrZoYQmrIfwLOH_jxqL7d7jRtj5Msjo/s320/IMG_2956.JPG" width="240" /></a></div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Lucida Grande'; font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 11px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;"><br />
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May spends most of her day sitting in their back room which can be quite cold. I made this quilt for her to put over her knees. It is a two-sided quilt - one that is bright and cheerful - the fabrics begged to be made how it has turned out - I had no plan - it just happened, while I made the other side more mellow and muted, so she can decide whether she needs cheering or soothing.<br />
I have made a number of quilts recently for babies, so it was fun to make one for a person of more mature years. It is soft and snuggly and hopefully will keep her warm.<br />
I gave this quilt to May last weekend and she looked thrilled to receive it. Communicating is not easy for her, but there were many smiles - Alan, her husband told us that she had rarely smiled during the previous week. I machine pieced the front and back and hand quilted it using an embroidery cotton. I love this range of fabrics and two other projects designed using them.<br />
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This morning I awoke to the news that this book has won this years Miles Franklin Award. Am I surprised? I haven't read any of the other books that were shortlisted but it is rare for a crime writer to be awarded such a prestigious writing award. One of the criteria for the judging is that the book "must present Australian life in its many phases". This book certainly does this. It is just not a pleasant phase to read about.<br />
Most of us will have watched Underbelly on television and read reports in the media about the criminal under life of Melbourne. We have also watched the recent bushfires and its impact on the surrounds of this city. Peter Temple combines these two themes into his book - it is summer, hot, smoky, smelly and we are confronted with the death of a young woman, closely followed by a gangland torture killing. Steve Villani, the head of the Homicide squad is set to investigate both these crimes, but is strongly warned off investigating the death of the woman. This does not stop him or his team. As the story unfolds, we find out about Villani's childhood, his family life, his disintegrated marriage, his daughter Lizzy and her drug problems, as well as the corruption in the government, police department and the lives of the rich and wealthy.<br />
Temple is understated in his writing, and uses words sparingly and well. Despite the lack of flowery descriptive language, I can smell the fire, feel the relentless heat and see the world that he describes - quite remarkable. The theme of truth unites all the different stories into one complete story - Villani is determined to find out the truth about what really happened to the girl who died who bears an uncanny resemblance to his daughter Lizzy. He is also confronted with facing the truths about his own life - how his father feels about him, his past and why his marriage is over, also what sort of father has he been to his own children? <br />
There is wonderful description in the book of a forest that Villani and his father planted years ago - it is the only place of beauty and sanctuary to exist in the entire book. Even it is threatened by the fire - but miraculously survives: "Scorched, the outer trees singed. They would lose some. But everywhere, in their circles and clumps and paths, the oaks were in full glorious summer green leaf." This single sentence could easily be missed, but indicates to me, the reader that truth will prevail - it survives - as does Villani.<br />
This morning I read Psalm 52, and in a way, this book is almost a modern day tale with a similar theme. In this world, there are those who love evil, who store up much wealth, and who love falsehood rather than speaking the truth, those who trust in their own wealth and grow strong by destroying others. David ends this Psalm:<br />
<blockquote>But I am like an olive tree flourishing in the house of God; I trust in God's unfailing love for ever and ever. I will praise you forever for what you have done; in your name I will hope, for your name is good. I will praise you in the presence of your saints." v8-9</blockquote>There is an encouragement in the book, that the evil will one day be laid bare and shown for what they really are. Truth does survive all. The challenge is to continue to put my trust and energy in the things of God - they will stand and survive.<br />
If you love a good crime thriller, you will want to read this one. Henning Mankell writes similarly about life in Sweden. It is almost easier to read books like this that are set in another country. Sadly, there is no Commissario Brunetti, who is the main character in all of Donna Leon's books, who writes about similar themes, she manages to sooth her readers with the wonderful descriptions of his home life and the food he eats and his little visits to coffee shops. There is none of that in Truth - it is relentless and harrowing.Sarah Condiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03911246756462438342noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7404980752595739862.post-29563445024266759322010-06-16T00:02:00.000-07:002010-06-17T18:23:15.195-07:00Priorities of a wise Mum 10<style type="text/css">
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I don't have seven children and I certainly don't live in a home that resembles this. Imagine doing all of life in a space like this - with seven children! Especially when the weather is wet day after day - it makes me understand where the expression "cabin fever" might have derived its meaning. <br />
Last night I was listening to two women speak about their lives overseas. One lives in Paris, the other in Florence and both have four children. How does that sound? Wouldn't their lives be wonderful living in such culturally rich places? What a difference to the above photo where this Mum lived in the middle of nowhere, surrounded by mud. However, both these women have lived in very small apartments and the weather for most of the year in that part of the world is cold and wet. I am sure they both regularly experience cabin fever. Both women shared how in the midst of wet weather, they would dress their children up in wet and warm weather gear and get out to let off steam.<br />
I remember a holiday from years ago when I was a child, we were at a beach house, us and another family and we had had a week of cold,wet weather. One morning after breakfast, my mother told us to dress in our swimmers, with rain jackets and go to the beach and entertain ourselves. She didn't want to see us again until lunch time. Cabin fever. She had probably had enough of scritching and scratching, and noisy children. It is only now, years later that I finally understand her behaviour.<br />
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A wise Mum understands the reality of cabin fever and has developed strategies to cope when cabin fever hits. I liked what my friends from Europe did - they headed outdoors to allow their children to let off steam. I am sure this was my Mother's intention all those years ago. Having lived most of my life with small children in smallish inner city houses, this was one of my coping strategies - we had a dose of the park - daily. <br />
Last week I spent the morning with a group of young Mums from my church - they meet every week for bible study and prayer and general support. Most of them looked tired - a couple had faced a major tantrum with their child before breakfast, some had tiny babies and had been woken during the night for feeding, several were fighting colds while for others, it had been an effort to get there at all. On reflection, I think some of these women have cabin fever and need five minutes peace from life.<br />
This is where good friends can be balm - letting a friend or relative look after your children so that you can have a break and collect your thoughts, your brain, your energy, your self-respect and integrity. If you feel slightly feverish and cooped up, can I encourage you to ask someone for help - if they could look after your children, even for an hour, just so you can have some space.<br />
Getting out and time out are helpful, however, there is another coping strategy that we are good at forgetting. <br />
For the last ten days I have been immersing myself in Psalm 62 and soaking the riches its words contain. It is a beautiful Psalm, filled with the image that our God is a rock, a fortress, our salvation, our hope and our refuge. Reading it, I get the sense that David, who wrote the Psalm is almost reminding himself that his soul can find rest in God.<br />
<blockquote>Find rest, O my soul, in God alone; my hope comes from him. He alone is my rock and my salvation; he is my fortress, I will not be shaken. My salvation and my honour depend on God; he is my mighty rock, my refuge. Trust in him at all times, O people; pour out your hearts to him, for God is our refuge. Psalm 62:5-8</blockquote>I love the idea that we can pour our hearts out to God - any time and that He is there as a refuge. When cabin fever hits - we <i>can</i> take refuge by turning to God and telling him how we feel - He will cope with this. Even finding a space on your own, open your bible and reading this Psalm and praying will help you survive cabin fever. Try it.<br />
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What an exquisite photo! I have always loved butterflies. I love the life cycle of the butterfly, which is one reason why I adore the story of <i>the very hungry caterpillar</i> by Eric Carle. This rather dull and tiny caterpillar pops out of an egg and begins to eat and eat and eat until he becomes one very fat caterpillar. After putting himself into a cocoon he emerges completely transformed into a beautiful butterfly. I remember becoming a Christian and feeling a bit like that caterpillar - I emerged a new and unique creature. It was a miracle of sorts - just as every time a butterfly emerges from that cocoon - it is a reminder of the beginnings of new life. Life as a butterfly...life as a Christian...how do we continue living life as if we are that beautiful butterfly?<br />
<blockquote>...since you have taken off your old self with its practices and have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge in the image of its Creator." Colossians 3:9-10</blockquote>Isn't that new self a beautiful creature in contrast to the old? How is it possible to develop and cultivate this new self? A wise Mum, indeed any wise Christian woman will know that this is a good thing to work on. And yet, Mums with babies and small children will probably struggle with this. Most of the time we don't feel like a butterfly, let alone a beautiful butterfly.<br />
Are you familiar with the story of Mary and Martha. For years, I identified strongly with Martha. Why did Mary get commended? It was Martha who was bustling around getting food ready, cleaning up and doing the chores while Mary simply sat. But she wasn't simply sitting, she was seated at the feet of her Lord - Jesus - and she listened to his words. Jesus simply told Martha that Mary "had chosen what was better." (Luke 10:38-42).<br />
Good, better, best. In life we will often have to make choices on how we spend our time and a wise Mum knows the value of turning towards Jesus and doing this regularly day after day - not just when she feels inclined.<br />
After children arrive, it is hard to have long uninterrupted blocks of time to read the bible, listen to a sermon on an ipod or spend time praying. We can set the bar too high and in the process we turn away from our Lord. It is easy to fill our day with distractions. There is always something that needs doing, seeing to, fixing or just our time and energy.<br />
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<ul><li>Think about your daily routine and work out a time that might be a "doable" time. Are you an early morning person? Are you a night owl? What are your children's routines? Do they have a sleep or rest time? Decide on a time and see if you can commit to it each week day. Start with just 5-10 minutes - even five minutes most week days is better than no minutes a day. If we are women who regularly set time aside to be with our Lord - God will use His word to change us and make us more Christlike. God uses His word to nourish our souls and to feed our hearts and minds. If we don't read it, we will gradually starve and stop looking like that butterfly. If this seems all too hard, don't berate yourself or be too hard on yourself. Sometimes life can be hard and just to get through each day is enough. However, it is something that is of immense help and encouragement if and when it happens.</li>
</ul><ul><li>Don't give up the habit of meeting with God's people. With small children and busy lives, it is tempting to use Sunday morning as the catch up morning to sleep in, to be slow and to have five minutes peace. Or, do you belong to a bible study group? Don't stop going. Don't let children's sleep routines distract from time with God's people, listening to His word being read and spoken about, spending time with His people praying for each other and encouraging each other. I love this exhortation:</li>
</ul><blockquote>"Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for he who promised is faithful. And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds. Let us not give up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but let us encourage one another - and all the more as you see the Day approaching." Hebrews 10:24-25 </blockquote>Good, better and best. We will constantly have to choose how to spend our time. Don't you want to keep being like that butterfly? <br />
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This is a favourite photo of mine. If you follow the link, you can read the story about this couple. They call each other Dear and Honey. They have clearly been together a long time and enjoy sharing their lives with each other. This photo captures something beautiful about a marriage that is happy and connected. A wise Mum recognises that her marriage is a central relationship in her life. You won't just drift into a happy marriage. Your children will not grow up, leave home for you to then have a deeply fulfilling and happy marriage. If you are not investing in your marriage now, it won't be there when you reach a new season in your life.<br />
A couple who are not emotionally connected are a couple who are unhappy and lonely. It is quite possible to hide the extent to which the hurt and disappointment you are feeling is impacting you both, and it can be quite a surprise to friends and church communities when a relationship breaks down. It does not have to be that way and it does not involve making gigantic steps that seem like hard work.<br />
The best gift you can give your children is a good marriage. It is the best gift you can give your church community and the best gift you can give to our broader community. When a marriage breaks down, lots of people suffer and there will be a ripple effect that continues to impact the lives of others.<br />
If you are reading this and have three children under the age of five, this will probably be one of the most challenging times in your marriage. It is hard work! I remember being told this at a marriage workshop, as I sat knitting, heavily pregnant with my third child. I heard it and then experienced it first hand. <br />
It will usually be the wife who recognises warning signs that all is not going well in a marriage. If you feel like there are some cracks, you can do something about it - seek the counsel of an older woman who you trust as a start - don't leave it too late or hope that magically, things will improve on their own - they won't. Often the first step to rebuilding emotional connection is admitting that things could be better and making a decision to do something about it.<br />
If this is <b>not</b> your experience, give thanks to God and continue to nurture your relationship with your husband - invest by setting aside "couple time", have fun together and show appreciation for each other. If you love your children, invest in your marriage.<br />
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<blockquote>Therefore, since we have a great high priest who has gone through the heavens, Jesus the Son of God, let us hold firmly to the faith we profess. For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathise with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are - yet was without sin. Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need." Hebrews 4:14-16</blockquote>This passage follows an earlier verse about how God sees into the very core of our beings - that everything is uncovered and laid bare before Him. When things are not good, it is tempting to want to hide away with shame. These verses are a strong exhortation to each of us to approach the throne of grace - at any time when we are in need. My prayer for each of you who read this, is that you will not only hold firmly to your faith, but will also ask for help in facing your hurts, disappointments and vulnerabilities. </div><div class="flickr-yourcomment"></div>Sarah Condiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03911246756462438342noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7404980752595739862.post-65740312375569335972010-05-20T17:57:00.000-07:002010-05-20T17:57:10.936-07:00After River<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEghIsxfeshloSUnb6vcgmizEQc8RLIyGYC6YFANJV_oxE1divW8mjR4jqTJwBzuVs-5qPsydCIgBuiqALptLsKLM_JN6A36dWXoz5fMkobnlBj8iNB1hpbBrMTwYGu6umnXgqQYs_xowAk/s1600/milner_after_river_uk.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEghIsxfeshloSUnb6vcgmizEQc8RLIyGYC6YFANJV_oxE1divW8mjR4jqTJwBzuVs-5qPsydCIgBuiqALptLsKLM_JN6A36dWXoz5fMkobnlBj8iNB1hpbBrMTwYGu6umnXgqQYs_xowAk/s320/milner_after_river_uk.jpg" /></a></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Lucida Grande'; font-size: 11px;">I have been a bit like a caterpillar of late, as I have read my way through a huge pile of books that I was fortunate enough to get and it has been wonderful. I have recently finished reading this book "<i>After River</i>". It is written by Donna Milner and she writes beautifully. If you have read any of Joyce Carol Oates's books with any enjoyment, you will like this book. It reminded me of "<i>We were the Mulvaneys</i>" which is harrowing to read, but memorable and thought provoking. As is this book.</span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Lucida Grande'; font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 11px;">River is the name of a young man who arrives at a dairy farm in British Columbia in the mid 1960s. River is an American draft dodger, who has illegally crossed the border to escape the Vietnam war. The Ward family are dairy farmers in a tiny rural community. The story is told by Natalie, the youngest and only daughter who is fifteen when River arrives.</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Lucida Grande'; font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 11px;">The narrative moves backwards and forwards in time and the reader gradually fills in the gaps about what happens in the mid 1960s two years after Rivers arrival that tears this close family wide apart, shattering and changing their lives for ever. It is a story about shame, secrets, small town prejudices, harboured hurts and the loss of innocence and the impact of an event on each member of this family. It is sad and I had tears streaming down my face by the end. There is much in the book that you could say is too coincidental or contrived, but it might have happened. I was reluctantly drawn into the world of Atwood - a remote village in the Rockies and felt as if I was an invisible observer and participant.</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Lucida Grande'; font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 11px;">It is easy to think that life was better in the "good old days", where there was no internet, computers, mobile phones, and that life in a small country village was wholesome and without problems. Isn't that the problem the Israelites had? Soon after they had been freed from slavery in Egypt, they were grumbling and complaining. All they could think about was the food they had to eat - it was if they have forgotten the hardships of life in Egypt, as in their minds they had forgotten all of that in the light of the present hardships they were facing. We can do this today and think that our life would be better, easier or less complicated if we lived in a remote village - away from the evils and perils of today. We could protect our children and ourselves if we lived in such a world. Reading this book made me realise that life was fairly complicated back then too - many of the prejudices and "taboo subjects were the background to my childhood - I am not that sure that I would like to return to such a world.</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Lucida Grande'; font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 11px;">I liked all the characters in this book and felt their realness, their pain and their hurts. 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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 13px;">I have not written a blog post for a while for a number of reasons, but one concerns the seasonal nature of life. Life has its seasons and a wise Mum understands this reality. Living in Sydney, we don't really get to taste the four seasons of the year - it seems to move from summer to winter without much autumn. I have a confused flowering plum tree in my garden who often thinks that autumn is the time to blossom and then it is flowering again in September. But Ecclessiastes 3 looks at life in this way: "There is a time for everything and a season for every activity under heaven. A time to be born and a time to die, .. a time to weep and a time to laugh..." </span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 13px;">If you are a mother of small children and babies, it is worth reminding yourself daily that this is a season and that it will pass. I have three children who no longer demand to be read to, sung to, cuddled, nor do they throw totally irrational tantrums while out - they have passed that stage. </span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 13px;">I took Jaden to his early intervention program and then had to work out the logistics of removing two children from a car in a car park and walking them safely to the playground. We visited a number of parks, with no gates, right beside Lake Macquarie. Sometimes they both decided to run - in opposite directions - one towards the road, the other towards the water. I didn't attempt a shopping trip with the two of them. We had mini picnics sitting in the sunshine, we read numerous books, we sang endless songs, we giggled together, I changed nappies from wriggling bodies and I cuddled them through furious tantrums, I put them to bed and hoped they would sleep. I was in bed at 8.30 every night - even the lure of "<i>P</i><i>S I love You</i>" on television was not enough to tempt me to stay up - I needed to sleep.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 13px;">This season of life is physically exhausting and if you are a mother with children of this age, let me tell you - it is hard work! You do this stuff day in and day out relentlessly, and it must seem unending. But.... it passes, that is if you stop having babies.</span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 13px;">It is easy to focus on the negatives of this season of life and yes, they are there, but there are many special joys - I love spending time at parks in the sunshine - this is not something I do any more. I love reading children's picture books - surprisingly, I no longer have children who clamour for another story. I love singing songs with children but today, my children never ask me to sing with them - they would probably die of embarrassment if I burst out into song. Each morning these children would greet me with the biggest smiles and the biggest cuddles - that was so lovely. Yes, it was an early start, but their happiness was infectious.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 13px;">A girl in my bible study group is about to give birth to her first child. She told me that she is not worried about being a Mum to a baby, but she is worried about being a Mum to a teenager. But we sow the seeds of what our children will be like as teenagers when they are small. If you are a wise Mum, you are able to focus on the season you are in with its good parts and not so good parts and know in your mind that it will pass and a new season will begin - all in good time.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 13px;">The year that I had a son start High School, my other son was doing his HSC was when I had a mild stroke. Not exactly a good time to go out of action as a mother. Looking back, I am certain that part of us surviving as a family during that year was from the time I had invested in my children when they were small. They were full on, but that was pretty much my life and all I did. If you are finding this season hard, the answer is not to distract yourself with other stuff or long for when your children are older. The best thing to do is to commit your angst, your frustrations, your tiredness to the Lord and ask Him to lift you, to energise you and to be content with this particular season.</span></span><br />
<blockquote>But as for me, I watch in hope for the Lord, I wait for God my saviour; my God will hear me. Micah 7:7</blockquote><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 13px;"><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">I love this photo for many reasons, but it seems to fit with what I want to say about a wise Mum and communication. A wise Mum knows that listening to her children matters - even when they say things that we don't want to hear. This is a picture of a penguin who is moulting and losing its baby feathers. I am wondering what this penguin is trying to communicate - he looks like he is covered in ice and is freezing cold - but perhaps he is flapping his wings - excited that he is finally growing up. I can't answer this question.</span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Our children will repeatedly say things that we will not want to hear. I can recall countless examples from my own life. Take for example the time when my oldest child Michael was not yet three. Even then, he was articulate and good at arguing his case. I was walking to bible study with my one year old in the pram and he was walking beside me. He told me very clearly and loudly that he didn't want to go to creche. I told him that he had to go, that he would have a lovely time playing with the other children. He then said that he was too shy to go to creche and this was why he didn't want to go. I then engaged in a long conversation with him about why he was not a shy boy, but a very friendly happy boy. I failed to listen to him on that day and I have failed to listen to him on other occasions. What was he trying to tell me? Simply that he didn't want to go to creche and if I had bothered to scoop him into my arms and ask him more, he would have told me that he just wanted to be with me and stay at home. At the time, I was more concerned with my own agenda - namely to have a time of adult conversation, bible study and a break from my children.</span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Listening to our children is important. If we can't listen to them when they are little and take what they say seriously, how can we expect them to grow up into teenagers who will tell us how they are feeling? I am not saying we will agree with what they say, but they need to know that they have been heard and understood. It is not always easy to hear what our children have to say. It might be inconvenient, difficult, or you feel like you have heard this before and are totally over this particular conversation. </span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">There are two proverbs that I think wise Mums ought to memorise and ponder:</span><br />
<div><ul><li>"He who answers before listening - that is his folly and his shame." Proverbs 18:13</li>
<li>"Do you see a man who speaks in haste? There is more hope for a fool than for him." Proverbs 29:20</li>
</ul><div>Let me share a perpetual conversation that I have had with my third child for over thirteen years. Johnny would tell me that he didn't want to go to pre-school or school. I would respond with "so you don't want to go - can you tell me what you would like to do?" He would then tell me that he would love to stay at home and just potter around at home. I would then say how this sounded like a lovely way to spend a day. How, I would love to have a quiet day at home too. After spending a bit of time dreaming with him about what he would like to do, much to my amazement, he has always happily gone to school. He never made a fuss, threw a tantrum or anything. And the conversation would have lasted five minutes max. It was as though, all he wanted was to tell me how he was feeling, and having done that, he was ready to face his day. I still have this exact same conversation with Johnny and he is almost seventeen. </div><div>There is something about listening to our child, taking what they say seriously that is soothing and helpful to them. There is another Proverb that is challenging:</div><div><ul><li>"A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger" Proverbs 15:1</li>
<li>"Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones." Proverbs 16:24</li>
</ul><div>In the interaction I had with Michael, I responded harshly and I certainly did not help the situation. He went to creche unhappy, misunderstood and probably feeling unloved. In the interactions I have had with Johnny, I was able to sooth and help him face his day. </div><div>If we can't listen to our children when they are little, we will not magically be able to listen to them when they hit those teenage years and believe me, there will be times when they will say things that we will not want to hear. But I want to be a Mum who is there for my children - be their biggest fans and supporters - I love them and I show them I love them by listening to them.</div><div>A very helpful book on listening to our children is "<i><a href="http://www.amazon.com/How-Talk-Kids-Will-Listen/dp/0380811960/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1272419230&sr=8-1">How to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk</a>"</i> by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish. I have also stumbled across a blog written by a New Zealand Mum who is very wise. She talks about listening to our children also in her posts. Check it out: <a href="http://thisweekwiththekids.blogspot.com/">this week with the kids</a>. Cathy is a wise Mum. Finally, I have made a card for those of you who would like to become a mother who listens well. It is always a "work in progress". </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgFfbArQPBT-rub0eqd8Ak-zLaaopsR0lyb5w8Hk26ah3J5yhn2dBTcdzpqty5XU1voNzLhjjcEO-xrO1ll9u8BfX1q0uA8nu4jRtMQEBM-UIBnzCQc5Zg8ZBDtTuwMAKJ5kgK-WPvmYHs/s1600/Proverbs%20on%20listening.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgFfbArQPBT-rub0eqd8Ak-zLaaopsR0lyb5w8Hk26ah3J5yhn2dBTcdzpqty5XU1voNzLhjjcEO-xrO1ll9u8BfX1q0uA8nu4jRtMQEBM-UIBnzCQc5Zg8ZBDtTuwMAKJ5kgK-WPvmYHs/s400/Proverbs%20on%20listening.jpg" width="280" /></a></div><div><br />
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It is a part of the pattern of life described by the writer of Ecclesiastes. "There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven: a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance" Ecclesiastes 3:1, 4. We could add a verse of our own "A time for good days when everything goes our way and a time for bad days when everything seems to go badly wrong." The Mum in this particular story is a wise Mum. She does not rescue Alexander from this particular terrible, horrible no good very bad day, but lets him deal with it. She doesn't promise to buy him a new box of cereal when he discovers that his cereal is the only box of cereal with no toy, nor does she apologise for forgetting to put dessert in his lunch box, and even at the end of the day, she doesn't tell Alexander that he can wear his favourite pyjamas because he has had a bad day. Alexander's mother responds quite simply to his plea that it has been a terrible horrible no good very bad day by saying "some days are like that".<br />
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This book was a great favourite in our family. Our children regularly took this book to bed with them - Perhaps they could identify with Alexander's day. I certainly could. For me there was a freedom and permission to have a bad day and openly label it a bad day. Surely we all have days that don't seem to go so well. We had a little conversation that centred around the truth of this book:<br />
"How was your day? I had a terrible, horrible, no good, very bad day" and the other would respond "That's no good, it's not nice to have a day like that is it? ... but then, some days are like that - aren't they?" <br />
What I particularly like about this book, is that Alexander reaches the conclusion that perhaps his mother is right - that some days are bad days - even in Australia. We have the American version of this book, which always made us laugh, as Alexander plans to move to Australia, which to him is on the other side of the world. The Australian version uses Timbucktoo.<br />
There is nothing wrong with verbalising how we are feeling about life when bad things happen - Alexander does this openly and his mother lets him. She even has the audacity to serve him lima beans for dinner, knowing full well that he hates lima beans - again, she doesn't offer an alternative. At the end of the book, we leave Alexander sound asleep at the end of his terrible, horrible, no good very bad day. He manages to self sooth, or use his own thoughts to make sense of his day. This is the challenge for Mums - to equip our children to deal with the blows of life and I like the example set by Alexander's Mother.<br />
Psalm 13 provides us with another picture of someone having a terrible, horrible, no good very bad day. David is obviously feeling completely overwhelmed and swamped:<br />
<blockquote>How long, O Lord? Will you forget me forever? How long will you hide your face from me? How long must I wrestle with my thoughts and every day have sorrow in my heart? How long will my enemy triumph over me? Look on me and answer, O Lord my God. Give light to my eyes, or I will sleep in death; my enemy will say, "I have overcome him, and my foes will rejoice when I fall." vv 1-4</blockquote> David ends his outburst by reminding himself of things he knows to be true about God:<br />
<blockquote>But I trust in your unfailing love; my heart rejoices in your salvation. I will sing to the Lord, for he has been good to me. vv 5-6</blockquote> David is an adult and he models here a way of dealing with despair and a difficult season in life that is wise and godly. We can begin helping our children deal with the disappointments, frustrations, hurts and sadnesses that will inevitably come their way. I would like to write a version of this Psalm for children.Sarah Condiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03911246756462438342noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7404980752595739862.post-44240677280800684472010-04-04T00:07:00.000-07:002010-04-04T00:07:34.501-07:00Easter Day<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjQa1a5lvjWZ8a8KgcMnuRv1ZQQqUoHZkX_VNK-XyChdQ57FH2g8RrGUvGqq50ZtmAREbmd5t-36Z35XAV0VFOSfEBxh1z7MwRPbQZejPumMH_yTIQ-hIBJmpcsgHD2A2uhqBuO6M6T3qA/s1600/IMG_2908.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="240" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjQa1a5lvjWZ8a8KgcMnuRv1ZQQqUoHZkX_VNK-XyChdQ57FH2g8RrGUvGqq50ZtmAREbmd5t-36Z35XAV0VFOSfEBxh1z7MwRPbQZejPumMH_yTIQ-hIBJmpcsgHD2A2uhqBuO6M6T3qA/s320/IMG_2908.JPG" width="320" /></a></div>This is our very newest Godson Jacob and we attended his baptism today. Three adults and four children were baptised during the service and it involved a rainwater tank that took five and a half hours to fill! Jacob had water splashed over his head by his Dad, the Pastor at his church - it was a moving event - Easter day seems a fitting occasion to celebrate new life, new birth and for the parents, godparents and church family to make promises on behalf of the children to be involved in their Christian upbringing through prayer and modeling the love of God. I thought that Keith and I were too old to be asked to be Godparents ever again, so we were honoured to be invited to be a part of Jacob's life. Keith was asked to pray and this was his prayer:<br />
<blockquote>Heavenly Father, We thank you for your gift of life and especially for your gift of new life through the death and resurrection of our Lord Jesus Christ. In your grace and by the power of your Holy Spirit, please make the promises made on behalf of Jacob a reality in his life. Enable Steve and Naomi to raise him in the fear and nurture of the Lord that he might know the freedom and joy of sins forgiven and ever live for your praise and glory. Amen.</blockquote><br />
It has been a special Easter weekend. Yesterday our family had brunch with our friends Steve and Naomi and their boys. Michael cooked us his scrambled eggs which are pretty fantastic. Then our family friend Jemima and Susannah spent the afternoon cooking up a three course feast which we shared with Jemima's family last night. It has been far too long since our families have spent time together, and we all enjoyed this precious time. The girls did a great job and seemed very organised and professional. We have suggested to Ben and Johnny that they attempt a similar banquet. I have been through five dozen eggs this Easter - we have done so much cooking! I am not sure I have been through that many eggs ever! Eggs are a good thing to cook at this time of year - they symbolise new life. <br />
It has been a while since I have spent so much time with my children. On Thursday night, we ate our traditional passover meal with my sister and her family before attending a special service of readings at our church. We all went to church again on Friday morning before taking lunch over to Keith's parents place. Keith's Mum is home from hospital and making good progress. She has good days and not so good days, but she enjoys seeing her family and enjoyed sitting in the sunshine eating lunch with us. That afternoon I got to spend time with my friend Nicky who was visiting from Melbourne. She was up with one of her sons for a couple of days. We sat in the garden and wished there was a group we could attend like the Friday Morning Group we used to attend which helped us as young Mums. We would love to talk about living with adult children and nurturing their independence without losing sleep or hair. <br />
I am not used to doing so much socialising, so tomorrow, I plan to sleep.Sarah Condiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03911246756462438342noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7404980752595739862.post-74969429845859840382010-03-30T17:05:00.001-07:002010-03-30T20:57:11.046-07:00Priorities of a wise Mum 4<style type="text/css">
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 13px;">I was waiting for someone to point out to me that I had omitted something from my last <a href="http://sarahspostcardsnaps.blogspot.com/2010/03/priorities-of-wise-mum-3.html">post</a>. There is a fourth way we can show our children that we love them and this is with the words we speak to them. A wise Mum knows that her child has supersonic ears and will hear any and every conversation involving them. The doors might be closed, your house might have thick walls, but somehow, they seem to be able to hear these conversations. Don't get me wrong, they don't seem to hear with the same sensitivity when we ask them to do a task or run an errand - it is like they have "selective supersonic hearing".</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 13px;">Ross Campbell in his book "<i>How to Really Love Your Child</i>" explains how our words can be used to show our children our love for them. It is more than saying to our children "I love you". It is how you speak about them. There are two Proverbs that seem to express the power of our words very clearly:</span></span><br />
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<ul><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 13px;">"Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones." Proverbs 16:24</span></span></li>
<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 13px;">"Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing." Proverbs 12:18</span></span></li>
</ul><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 13px;">The words we use to speak about our children can build them up, encourage them, nurture them and make them feel ok about themselves. However they can also crush them, hurt them and leave them feeling inadequate and unloved. There have been times in my life as a mother, when I have had to work very hard at curbing the words I spoke about my children when they were in hearing distance. It might have been over a coffee with a good friend while our children played, at a park with a group of other Mums or when my husband returned home at the end of the day. Sometimes, my children had driven me wild, and I couldn't think of anything positive to say about them. This is the time to shut up.</span></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiLkHMur7fpu1Zr5xSYmT3KFBgvoVQbzzMQSlIqHNG_4sJHxiOMPBGmaJ4-_i6teOfuc57xjp0nLjK4kC177krAyumxWvLyu2UU1EUZgpfGKa8Ppwx6R0i37muePGOtT_u-m_QulQ1tlDU/s1600/harriet-youll-drive-me-wild.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiLkHMur7fpu1Zr5xSYmT3KFBgvoVQbzzMQSlIqHNG_4sJHxiOMPBGmaJ4-_i6teOfuc57xjp0nLjK4kC177krAyumxWvLyu2UU1EUZgpfGKa8Ppwx6R0i37muePGOtT_u-m_QulQ1tlDU/s320/harriet-youll-drive-me-wild.jpg" /></a></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 13px;">I had to consciously think, ok what is something positive or good that I can say about my child that has happened today - not always easy - and say that and leave my rant for later, behind closed doors and in a soundproof room.</span></span><br />
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How do we show our children that we love them? And I mean unconditionally love them? Do they feel loved only when they have pleased us? When they have been good? Do we love our children in the same manner that God loves us? Unconditionally. Without reservation. <br />
To be perfectly honest, this is one of the hardest jobs I have ever been asked to do. I think it would be easier to go bungy jumping and sky diving than to love my children in the same manner that God loves me. If unconditional love was not modelled to us as a child, then it is even more difficult. It is easy to leave our home, go to bible study, church or play group and put on a bright friendly smile, race around like a headless chook and come home totally exhausted to our children who we have no reserves left to deal with at all. Our children need more than us telling them with words that we love them and apologies for our tiredness and grumpiness - yet again.<br />
I am always challenged by how much God loves me: "How great is the love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called the children of God!" 1 John 3:1 or look at Psalm 103 in which the love of God for his people is expressed very clearly. This is who we need to model ourselves on and pray that God will fill us with love for our children day in and day out.<br />
If you are struggling with loving your children, take time to remind yourself of God's deep and unconditional love for you by pondering the words of this Psalm.<br />
In Paul's letters to the Corinthians, he says something to his readers that is rather interesting. He is clearly frustrated by their behaviour and is strongly rebuking them and he then says: "What do you prefer? Shall I come to you with a whip, or in love and with a gentle spirit?" (I Cor 4:21.) Our children are children and by definition will behave childishly, irritatingly and annoyingly - constantly and the challenge is to not meet it with aggression, anger and harshness but with love and a gentle spirit. I don't know about you, but I find this a hard call.<br />
One of the wisest parenting gurus I know is Ross Campbell and he has written a number of books that explain in practical ways how to love our children with unconditional love. I was given a copy of his book "<i>How to really love your child</i>" when Michael was four weeks old. It is short and easy to read and I read it in one sitting and then returned to the beginning and read it more slowly. Amazingly, it provided me with the tools and strategies to show my child - a tiny baby that I loved him, and amazingly, he is now almost 22 and it still provides me with the tools and strategies to show him, now a fine young man that I love him.<br />
There are three ways we can demonstrate to our children that they are loved. We can use eye contact - looking directly into our children's eyes - and not just when we are cross with them, physical contact - which will vary depending on age - cuddles, hand on shoulder, ruffled hair, back massage, and focussed attention - time alone with each child in which you do something just with them and you give them your undivided attention - your mobile phone is switched off, you are not giving them continual partial attention but your full attention. Doing these things regularly with each of our children fills their emotional tanks and communicates that we love them. I have made a new postcard based on <a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/9788687@N03/4446178895/">Psalm 103</a>.<br />
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEilrE7xhgmub5g2MziLCS6Aj2l9L8KJhOYQjn3FsDdHd407WOcfM4KaaBw1qi6jH2iSp8SjtDcriVvdC4tyX7sCyJWafx4nMfxDuW0kEa7cwoHD9aJAP-6ZpOS2AxI6JSF5aPe1LTsJBAQ/s1600-h/Psalm+103.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEilrE7xhgmub5g2MziLCS6Aj2l9L8KJhOYQjn3FsDdHd407WOcfM4KaaBw1qi6jH2iSp8SjtDcriVvdC4tyX7sCyJWafx4nMfxDuW0kEa7cwoHD9aJAP-6ZpOS2AxI6JSF5aPe1LTsJBAQ/s640/Psalm+103.jpg" width="448" /></a></div>You can follow the link to download and print and put it somewhere to remind yourself that our God is a God of love. A wise Mum is one who approaches her children with this same love and a gentle spirit.Sarah Condiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03911246756462438342noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7404980752595739862.post-92022127530639721372010-03-20T20:38:00.001-07:002010-03-26T00:13:01.850-07:00The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo<style type="text/css">
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 13px;">I read this book over a year ago. I was quite intrigued, as I had spent time with one of my daughter Susannah's friends and her mother and both had been completely engrossed by this book. They both told me separately, that they had not been able to put it down. As I am a bookworm and devour books, I purchased a copy and was hooked and became inseparable from it until I had finished the final page. This is extremely dangerous when life beckons and there are many things that demand my attention. I then got hold of the second book, and put my name down to get the third on its release last September. They have been well read books, as I have passed them to different friends and work colleagues.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 13px;">The film has just been released, and I went and saw it yesterday with a good friend. I usually hate seeing the film of a book when I have enjoyed, but this time I was pleasantly surprised. The film captures the main characters of Lisbeth Salander and Mikhail Blomkvist perfectly. The story is well told - nothing is left to the imagination - it is fairly brutal, so there were times when I was grabbing Amal's arm and closing my eyes, but I enjoyed it immensely. I am not going into details, as I don't want to spoil either the book or film for anyone. But if you enjoy a thriller, you will enjoy this.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 13px;">I have to confess that I love thriller books and thriller movies. This often comes as a surprise to people who know me, but I am smitten. I have a secret life of interest in the underworld of crime at work also, as I write regularly about criminal cases that have gone to court and about the law generally on a <a href="http://blog.sl.nsw.gov.au/hsc_legal_studies/">blog</a> for legal studies students. I am hoping that Keith will want to see it, despite not having read the book, so I can get to see it again. Am I mad or ?</span></span></div><div class="flickr-yourcomment"></div>Sarah Condiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03911246756462438342noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7404980752595739862.post-12786289271829308632010-03-20T20:16:00.001-07:002010-03-20T20:34:42.570-07:00Pink<style type="text/css">
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 13px;">What emerged was a beautifully shaped head - in fact she radiated beauty. One of those watching, was Steve, who lost his wife to cancer four years ago leaving him to raise their two little girls as a single Dad. It was almost a time of celebration, as we prayed for her, as she undergoes months of horrible treatment. Amazingly, five and a half thousand dollars was raised as collectively, we wanted to show this woman that she is not alone and that we walk with her.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 13px;">This morning she arrived at church, newly shaved, her head uncovered and she looked beautiful. She had a pink rose on her necklace and wore a soft pink scarf around her shoulders. </span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 13px;">Having walked with my Mum with breast cancer six years ago, she lost her hair also, and has been given the all clear every six months since, and more recently, my Mother-in-law who had radiotherapy treatment late last year, I appreciated the opportunity to demonstrate in a practical way my support for this woman. </span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 13px;">I found this photo on flickr, and it captures how sometimes out of the bleakness of life, a surprise emerges, as we see people survive the difficult times they face - they are able to smile and walk bravely trusting that they have their God with them and they are not alone.</span></span></div><div class="flickr-yourcomment"></div>Sarah Condiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03911246756462438342noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7404980752595739862.post-9144131964481368802010-03-16T16:38:00.000-07:002010-03-16T16:38:02.015-07:00Priorities of a wise Mum 2<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh1tP2QoDcEKPvAcTVYkljkSViWiyzsSCeGkjIVWFD7aCWjeqMeW30CAb9pL2lq7UD62gkIo_2RYWBucQZtPLAjt0CO2etxm_W9l_kbbwvlrf9aWWTrUg9bMMSoY6qhXIUd0b4-3OPIeC0/s1600-h/IMG_0314.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh1tP2QoDcEKPvAcTVYkljkSViWiyzsSCeGkjIVWFD7aCWjeqMeW30CAb9pL2lq7UD62gkIo_2RYWBucQZtPLAjt0CO2etxm_W9l_kbbwvlrf9aWWTrUg9bMMSoY6qhXIUd0b4-3OPIeC0/s400/IMG_0314.JPG" width="300" /></a></div><br />
<a name='more'></a>About fifteen years ago, Keith gave me a bunch of poppies. It was not a beautiful bunch of flowers at first as it was a bunch of pods, but I put them in a vase in the middle of our kitchen table thinking to myself that I would never have chosen this particular bunch of flowers as it looked rather ugly.<br />
Much to my surprise, this bunch of pods turned into the most spectacular bunch of flowers imaginable and it happened before our eyes. My family would sit at the table and watch a pod "pop" and burst out of its shell and reveal a brand new flower. I can still remember how I felt looking at this bunch of flowers, as I felt very much like the pod and desperately longed to become one of those flowers.<br />
Being a mother of small children had exhausted me and I had few reserves remaining. I was a Christian, and could tell you with my mouth that I was God's precious child, but I certainly didn't feel it inside. I honestly didn't think that I mattered to God at all. Keith was working at a large church and was very busy and worked many nights and long days. I felt like what he did was important and mattered to God. I had invested most of my energy into being a wife and mother, but didn't feel like I was doing a particularly good job at either and must be a profound disappointment to God.<br />
Soon after this bunch of poppies arrived, I was asked to give a talk on grace. God in His profound goodness, used this talk to speak to me of His grace toward me. It was like becoming a Christian all over again and I felt like something burst inside me and that I was no longer a pod but God's beautiful flower.<br />
<b>A wise Mum remembers that she is saved by grace</b> and it is this that shapes who she is profoundly.<br />
If you find yourself feeling like a no good, very bad Christian mother, it is good to remind yourself of the depth of God's deep deep love for you. A wise Mum knows that she is nothing without God's grace. There is a song that expresses this truth beautifully:<br />
"Come see the beauty of the Lord,<br />
Come see the beauty of his face.<br />
See the Lamb that once was slain,<br />
See on his palms is carved your name.<br />
See how our pain has pierced his heart,<br />
And on his brow he bears our pride:<br />
A crown of thorns.<br />
But only love pours from his heart<br />
As silently he takes the blame.<br />
He has my name upon his lips,<br />
My condemnation falls on him.<br />
This love is marvellous to me,<br />
His sacrifice has set me free,<br />
And now I live." Graham Kendrick, 1985.<br />
We need to remind ourselves that God does not only accept us if we are perfect mothers and have perfect children. Nor does He only accept us if we have lived a life of good deeds. It is easy to demand perfection of ourselves and think that this is what God demands. But let me tell you, this will lead to a "podlike" existence and it is pretty bleak.<br />
If you look at Zephaniah it describes how God feels about His chosen people: "He will take great delight in you, he will quiet you with his love, he will rejoice over you with singing." (3:17) This verse tells us that God actually delights in each one of us! Why? Is it because we are such utterly adorable creatures? Or is it because our children are so totally irresistible? This verse says that He delights in us because He loves us just as we are. Not because of our expertise in mothering or because we have perfect children. If you need help remembering this truth, I made a card that you can print out and put on your fridge or noticeboard on an earlier <a href="http://sarahspostcardsnaps.blogspot.com/2007/08/lord-our-god-delights-in-you.html">post</a>.<br />
I am certain I am not the only mother to forget about grace. I read recently an article by Ruth Barry in the <a href="http://eternity.biz/">Eternity</a> Magazine "<a href="http://eternity.biz/news/and_then_i_turned_31/1003081300/">then I turned 31</a>". I love her honesty and am excited by her thinking.Sarah Condiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03911246756462438342noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7404980752595739862.post-13928957603019645102010-03-15T23:27:00.000-07:002010-03-15T23:27:25.380-07:0021st birthday quilt<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhdM7qxQyvhImNOm2pD-LbZC-VMUW2b0ZlbzswyXhXC0mgLazeYbAd9gsS8DgiqHrZi_YFJLwSTFa9Czb2X8-B1MAtKj3J2ub7tLNfLfnFjPCFFhxrFWXdqTrD84KfrdnvLtv8_oGTrflM/s1600-h/Caiti's+Quilt.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="198" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhdM7qxQyvhImNOm2pD-LbZC-VMUW2b0ZlbzswyXhXC0mgLazeYbAd9gsS8DgiqHrZi_YFJLwSTFa9Czb2X8-B1MAtKj3J2ub7tLNfLfnFjPCFFhxrFWXdqTrD84KfrdnvLtv8_oGTrflM/s320/Caiti's+Quilt.jpg" width="320" /></a></div>My niece Caitlin has just turned 21. I had wanted to make a quilt for her birthday, so I asked her sister, her mother and all of my children "if I made a quilt for Caiti, what colours should I use and what sort of design should I do?" Each time I had the same response "she will like whatever you make for her". This was singularly unhelpful, but undaunted, I took Susannah with me to shop for fabric.<br />
This was a year ago - I thought I would give myself plenty of time to get it made. We went to one of my favourite shops <a href="http://www.printscharming.com.au/">Prints Charming</a> in Annandale armed with a <a href="http://www.kaffefassett.com/Home.html">Kaffe Fassett</a> book containing a quilt design that looked effective and reasonably easy. <br />
We had a fun time choosing fabric - we bought just enough for the quilt I had selected and it sat looking beautiful in plastic wrapping. A year ago I was not at all well and the idea of starting this project was a little overwhelming, so it sat until the beginning of this year.<br />
In January, I took time off work, thinking that Keith would have finished writing about Ricky and we could go away, but his deadline was moved, due to other events that happened in our family, so I had time to fill, and I constructed this quilt!<br />
The fabric that Prints Charming use is beautiful to sew - it is soft - I am not really sure what else to say about it, except it is a dream to work with. There have been times over the last few weeks when I have had to quickly hide this project, as Caiti often visits. I finally completed quilting it on the weekend and gave it to her this morning. <br />
This quilt was a pleasure to create and I am hoping that Caiti will use it to snuggle under while watching TV or asleep in bed and that she can drape it over the easel which Mum gave her for her birthday when she is not painting. <br />
I would love to artistically display this quilt in the fashion of Kaffe Fassett, but alas, as with decorating birthday cakes, this is not my forte. But it did look lovely in our garden.<br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjN_lp8Y28F6aNSmraradkYQSuWKjfjU5_A-cvKh43Dpxh2l2Op_QckTWbi9FMKxSo1J_mlMlxaMy6UbiC78LmY7MXLX3mtQMcDLCXydTbBAgYFqsfCH9CEAqUoYmcikuApypQ5Rcz5ZuU/s1600-h/Caiti+and+her+quilt.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="190" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjN_lp8Y28F6aNSmraradkYQSuWKjfjU5_A-cvKh43Dpxh2l2Op_QckTWbi9FMKxSo1J_mlMlxaMy6UbiC78LmY7MXLX3mtQMcDLCXydTbBAgYFqsfCH9CEAqUoYmcikuApypQ5Rcz5ZuU/s320/Caiti+and+her+quilt.jpg" width="320" /></a></div>Sarah Condiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03911246756462438342noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7404980752595739862.post-10126883802699024452010-03-13T21:11:00.000-08:002010-03-14T15:55:50.642-07:00The Doorbell Rang<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjuMeZLk5IA43xPLMI7aoYVf5KwPpHF_Exwi4aeXD-8Jx9P8zj8MsXtuRsdG3VsMmyT1iS0dIQiiU_4zSsw6O7KGCMiqQVVolpshRirDOW7lk9NY2eG-7z2lvlx5jjeSjFaGMGPQdr1Cjc/s1600-h/The+doorbell+rang" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="325" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjuMeZLk5IA43xPLMI7aoYVf5KwPpHF_Exwi4aeXD-8Jx9P8zj8MsXtuRsdG3VsMmyT1iS0dIQiiU_4zSsw6O7KGCMiqQVVolpshRirDOW7lk9NY2eG-7z2lvlx5jjeSjFaGMGPQdr1Cjc/s400/The+doorbell+rang" width="400" /></a></div>This book was a great favourite of mine when my children were small. It is quirky. Imagine the excitement of two children being given a plate filled with freshly baked choc chip cookies, and working out they can have six each, only to have to share them with others? Each time the doorbell rings, the number of cookies they can each have diminishes. But the doorbell keeps ringing and that clean kitchen floor gets muddier and muddier.<br />
My children are much older, but our doorbell rings - often. Sometimes I come home never quite knowing who will be there. I rarely have choc chip cookies around, or muffins, or anything much, but the kettle is often put on and a cup of tea is made and shared. Susannah makes the best choc chip cookies in our family and we all enjoy them when she has baked.<br />
There is a sense of chaos in this domestic scene which resonates with the domestic chaos I regularly find in my home - bags left on the floor, a pile of shoes by the door, piles of mugs, glasses and plates beside the kitchen sink, a freshly washed kitchen floor no longer quite so sparkly clean.<br />
How can I complain? Didn't I teach my children about generosity, sharing and hospitality? Isn't this a book we read again and again? I now watch them welcome their friends and neighbours into our home filling it will laughter, noise and chaos and still the doorbell rings and I am glad.Sarah Condiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03911246756462438342noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7404980752595739862.post-31018769512301472332010-03-09T15:45:00.001-08:002010-03-09T18:47:12.819-08:00Priorities of a wise Mum 1<style type="text/css">
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 13px;">I love this photo from the State Library of NSW - I have no idea whether Florence Austral was a mother as well as being a famous singer, but this photo depicts a thoroughly domestic scene - she is making marmalade and behind her is her teapot and cups and saucers. I have not made marmalade that often, but when I do, I look flustered and dishevelled and my entire kitchen would look like a bomb had hit it.</span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 13px;">A number of years ago, I was asked to speak to a group of Mums on the topic "priorities of a wise Mum". I was searching through my black hole of a filing cabinet looking for something else and found it buried amongst some other papers. I know that some of you who read this blog are Mums and have found previous posts helpful, so I thought I would share this talk with you over the next few weeks. I like thinking about things slowly and mull them around in my head - so I will share a new bit every week, to give you a chance to reflect on it.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 13px;">Before you became a Mum, what did you think or imagine you would be like as a mother. Were there qualities you thought you would like to have or things you imagined yourself doing? </span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 13px;">Before I became a Mum, I imagined that I would be a calm and serene mother. I thought that I would be a perfect mother in every way - have wonderful relationships with my children, that I would have perfect children, that I would have a perfect marriage. I didn't think I would be working in paid employment. I imagined that each day I would cook choc chip cookies or blueberry muffins and my children would come home from school to the aroma of these freshly baked goodies and we would sit around the table and chat peacefully about our day.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 13px;">This picture couldn't be further from the reality of my life if I tried. I discovered that I am a far from perfect mother, I have far from perfect children and my marriage is certainly not perfect. Most days, I could tell myself that I am a complete failure.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 13px;">On reaching this dismal realisation, I started to ask the question - what <b>does God</b> expect of me as a Mum, as a Christian Mum? Each of you could ask the same question. What does God expect or demand of you as mothers - as Christian mothers? </span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 13px;">After much thought, I came up with a few ideas of what could characterise or lives as Christian mothers.</span></span><br />
<ol><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 13px; font-weight: bold;">A wise Mum trusts in God</span></li>
</ol><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 13px;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-weight: normal;">It is so easy to be anxious about our children. We can fill our minds with much fret - will they succeed academically? with they be liked by others and make friends? Will they hold onto the Christian faith? Will they develop qualities of gentleness, kindness and goodness? Will they go to sleep tonight and stay asleep and not awaken with a bad dream? Will they ever stop driving me crazy? Can we trust God with all these anxious thoughts?<br />
A wise Mum is able to silence these silence these anxious thoughts. and have a deep firm trust in her God. She reminds herself constantly that God is sovereign and totally trustworthy. </span></b></span></span><br />
<blockquote>"Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding, in all your ways acknowledge him and he will make your paths straight." Proverbs 3:5-6</blockquote><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 13px;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-weight: normal;">The wise woman trusts God. We have a wonderful picture of a wise woman in the book of Proverbs. Most of you will be familiar with the Proverbs 31 woman. This woman is a wife and a mother. She is the epitome of a wise woman. The quality she is most praised for is that she is a woman who "fears the Lord". Why does she fear Him? Because she knows that He is the sovereign God and completely in control of all that happens in life. She lives her life as if this is a reality.</span></b></span></span><br />
<blockquote> <i>A prayer:</i></blockquote><blockquote> <i>Lovi</i><i>ng heavenly Father, thank you for the privilege of being a mother. Thank you for my children. I want to thank you that you are my sovereign God and that you are totally trustworthy - I can entrust my children to your tender and loving care. There are so many things that I want to fix and control, but I can't. I commit my heart to you and ask that you will help me be a Mum who simply trusts you. Thank you that you are always with me, and that you are always with my children. Even when I feel like I have nothing to give my children, I know that you are the strength of my heart and my portion forever - I cast myself into your hands, knowing that you are holding me by my right hand and that you guide me with your counsel and that afterwards you will take me into glory. Amen. (from Psalm 73:23-26.)</i></blockquote></div><div class="flickr-yourcomment"></div>Sarah Condiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03911246756462438342noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7404980752595739862.post-79291316254711883202010-03-08T13:02:00.000-08:002010-11-01T16:22:46.749-07:00Numbering our days - revisited<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjMz6mgDz4ZqZzCqeOt4_WLLiAt-JWJ7m5BQSNdx7v08XlhPMDX0uRqU5wc6qHPhmnjge4ja18YNPAYjvQAff1OyblKPPCv-cz-U3QCXWiWMLZsX0KxkDVPkUqR3AvUcvCPmIHchjtx08A/s1600-h/IMG_2622.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="300" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjMz6mgDz4ZqZzCqeOt4_WLLiAt-JWJ7m5BQSNdx7v08XlhPMDX0uRqU5wc6qHPhmnjge4ja18YNPAYjvQAff1OyblKPPCv-cz-U3QCXWiWMLZsX0KxkDVPkUqR3AvUcvCPmIHchjtx08A/s400/IMG_2622.JPG" width="400" /></a></div>Last week I had a conversation with Michael in which I was telling him about seeing one of his old school friends who has just turned 21. She had lamented to me that she was getting old and that in "just nine years she would be turning 30!" Michael responded to this by telling me that each day he thinks he is one day closer to heaven and that he embraces growing older quite happily, with this reality set before him.<br />
Yes, he had just been to a funeral for the father of a dear friend and yes, the reality of death was in his face, but I was struck by his mindset.<br />
Is that how I think at the end of each day? - "I am one day closer to heaven?" Does this reality permeate to the core of my being? It certainly permeated Richard Baxter's life, his thoughts and his speech. He spent the second half of his life preparing for his death and he had a long wait, but he meditated upon the splendours awaiting him in heaven daily.<br />
A few years ago, I wrote a devotion on "<a href="http://sarahspostcardsnaps.blogspot.com/2007/08/numbering-our-days_07.html">numbering our days</a>" and I revisited it. I wrote it after my health scare and I have to admit I did much soul searching. <br />
It is challenging to think again about how I fill my days - there are many distractions and I easily get caught up in the details of life that in the scale of things really don't matter. I have returned to this verse and my prayer - it was a timely conversation. Thanks Michael!Sarah Condiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03911246756462438342noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7404980752595739862.post-13379350717590582182010-03-07T23:52:00.001-08:002010-03-08T01:52:28.142-08:00Celebrating One Hundred years at the State Library<style type="text/css">
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 13px;">Today I attended an afternoon tea and preview of our <a href="http://www.onehundred.sl.nsw.gov.au/">One Hundred</a> exhibition, which opens tonight in honour of our one hundredth birthday. It looked rather different to the above picture - I didn't see any hats, or suits even, but it was equally auspicious. Tonight there is a proper gala dinner. </span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 13px;">The exhibition is worth viewing. One hundred items from our collection have been chosen for display for one hundred days. It is a somewhat eclectic collection of items and each one tells a unique story.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 13px;">A few of my favourites include:</span></span><br />
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<ul><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 13px;"> the draft for Ethel Turner's<i> Seven Little Australians, </i>a book I adored as a child and read again and again. I still remember my teacher reading it to our class in primary school and being so enthralled that I had to get it out of the library to reach the end - I just couldn't wait.;</span></li>
<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 13px;"> Miles Franklin's waratah cup and saucer and her letters to Angus and Robertson - how well I remember reading <i>My Brilliant Career;</i></span></li>
<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 13px;">A chinese porcelain punchbowl featuring a scene of Sydney Cove - it is exquisite - I had only seen pictures of it, but in real life is beautiful;</span></span></li>
<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 13px;">Kate Grenville's draft manuscript for The Secret River;</span></span></li>
<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 13px;">Joseph Banks journal that he kept on board the Endeavour</span></span></li>
<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 13px;">A years worth of junk mail that arrived in a family's mailbox - there was rather a lot! </span></span></li>
</ul><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 13px;">The exhibition has been beautifully displayed and is inspiring. I would encourage you to take the time to visit the State Library and celebrate its centenary and browse this exhibition. This coming Saturday there is an Open Day at the library called <a href="http://www.sl.nsw.gov.au/events/events_talks/events/check_out_the_library.html?HomeLink=Whats_On">Check Out the Library</a> - it sounds like fun for young and old. I will be there this Saturday and am hoping some of my family join me.</span></span></div></div><div class="flickr-yourcomment"></div>Sarah Condiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03911246756462438342noreply@blogger.com1